Self-Care takes consistent effort,
commitment, self-discipline and an un-ignorable (did I just make that word up?!) desire to be better than you were yesterday. You don’t just wake up one day living your best life, loving every part of yourself. It takes a lot of routine and daily work to get there. In this post, I want to talk about those daily efforts and my routines, that keep me on track to looking after my health and mental well-being.
This is very apt to be writing this, because I’ve been really tough on myself recently with all that negative self talk which loves to creep in every so often. But I have to remind it who the F I am and kick those negative thoughts to the curb. These routines help me be more in touch with my intuition and remind me to be gentle and patient with myself most importantly.
WEEKDAY MORNING ROUTINE
- Recently I’ve been getting up earlier in the morning. It’s a gruesome 6am alarm, but it allows me to get myself and my son ready without the stress of rushing around. I can make sure everything is set up; the school uniform is ironed, the beds are made, have a moment of silence and slowly start to wake up and seize the day.
- No phone for the first hour or half hour after I wake up. Most of us sleep with our phones near or next to us, it’s so tempting to check the socials first thing but I’ve realised this does nothing for my self esteem or mental well-being. So I like to stay switched off for a while, make a cup of green tea, have some breakfast and get in the shower.
I’m not the best morning person so there’s really not more to my routine right now. Waking up at 6am is a struggle enough as it is, so I give myself a little pat on the back for doing that.
WEEKEND SLOW MORNING ROUTINE
The glorious two days of the week where I don’t let my alarm dictate to me when I wake up. But let my son do so instead, probably by demanding his favourite cereal… Long gone are the days of laying in until 12. I digress! After I’ve fulfilled my five year old’s requests, I like to get back in bed with a cup of green or herbal tea, pull the blinds up to let the sunlight in and just ~be~.
- I’ll put on a Chill-Out playlist to have some ‘me-time’ to. I’ll use it as my weekly opportunity to discover new music on Spotify OR re-read the messages in my favourite Self-Help books.
- When I eventually pull myself out of bed, I’ll usually cook something for breakfast rather than a quick and convenient bowl of cereal or toast that I usually g for in the week.
- I’ll take the chance to burn some sage to cleanse my environment, otherwise known as smudging! Burned Sage is scientifically proven to change the ionic composition of the air, cleansing it and any negative energy.
- Indulge in a proper skincare routine. Starting with cleansing the day off my face, steaming my skin for 5-10 minutes with boiled water infused with some eucalyptus oil to open my airways and flush out my pores. I’ll then put a face mask of choice on and leave it to dry. I have recently been using the Muddy Body Detox Mask which is full of ingredients that my skin loves (clay, charcoal, witch hazel). Or I’ll go for the trusty Lush Fresh Face Masks. My personal go-to’s are Catastrophe Cosmetic and Rosy Cheeks. I’ll wash it off using rose water or just plain water. Following that with a toner and usually finish with the full of grace serum from Lush. When I have any spots or blemishes I’ll dab some tea tree oil on and pray for the best.
- The weekend is also when I carry out my hair-care routine. (Go see THIS post to read all about my natural hair journey.) I’ll soak my hair in coconut or olive oil, which I’ll leave on for a few hours (or overnight in some cases). I’ll wash that out normally with shampoo, followed by a hair mask – either the Umberto Giannini Minute Mask or Indulge Mask depending how indulgent I’m feeling. I’ll finish by using a conditioner, after I rinse that out I’ll put coconut oil to the tips. You can imagine how long my showers are when I wash my hair!
After I’ve tucked my son in to bed, read with him and talked about our favourite parts of the day. I can then start to focus on any pending things I need to tick off from my mental to-do list. Whether it’s finishing a blog post, doing some revision, writing down ideas, making plans and goals or making progress on a floral assignment. I dedicate some time in doing something productive before I switch off and wind-down. Now the following things I don’t do every night as I simply don’t have the time to be so boujee every night (and frankly want to cram in as much Netflix as I can), but I’ll do at least one or two minimum from the list below:
- I notice a huge difference in my overall sense of content when I do some basic exercises in the evening. Some simple yoga poses and stretching along with some booty firming exercises, so I can try and reverse the mum bum situation.
- Have a bath with Epsom Salts, essential oils, or, recently I add a few pumps of the This Works Sleep Shower Gel to create a few bubbles and let that lavender goodness soak in. Of course I’ll pair it with the Deep Sleep Pillow Spray, so it can do it’s magic when my head finally hits the pillow.
- Yoni Steaming – Okay, this may be a little far out there for some of you, but listen, there are so many benefits to steaming your vajayjay, including reducing the occurrence of ingrown hairs. I don’t even remember how I first stumbled across Yoni Steaming but since I started doing some research on this, I also heard a woman who waxes vaj’s for a living, endorse it on one of my favourite podcasts. Who am I to ignore an expert! Go google it hunnies and give your down there some TLC.
- Meditate – Even if it’s just a short five minutes to quiet my mind and focus on my breathing. There are so many wonderful health perks to meditating and I would encourage everyone to give it a go.
- Burn Incense – First of all, taking a trip to my local spiritual/hippy shop is a wonderful experience within itself to chose my incenses. When I light one at home at night, it makes me feel instantly relaxed. I now associate that smell of incense with slowing down and switching off.
- Skincare Routine – Something that I refuse to neglect or ignore is skincare. DAY AND NIGHT. My skin has been on a mad one the last year and I just can’t seem to get it to settle down. My goal is to be a baby girl with fresh, glowing skin and an even complexion. I’m not a big make-up wearer so investing time in my skin is really important to me.
- Put that damn phone down – Again, it’s easy to stay on our phones with the light beaming into our faces while we lay in bed, but I’ve been avoiding doing that. Too much stimulation in the evening makes it harder to sleep because our brains are overactive. It also doesn’t help that social media, as great as it is to have us all connected 24/7, can be a very negative, draining and triggering environment for a lot of us. So do yourself a favour and give Insta a break love. So you can love yo’self.
Okay there we have it. My every day SELF-CARE routines! Do you have daily self care practices you focus on daily? If so I’d love to know about it, let me know yours on twitter.