‘You become the people you spend most of your time with.’
The sad truth of this is some of us spend more time on social media than we do actually being with friends. (As an introverted extrovert who secretly enjoys being alone, I definitely do). Even if you don’t want to admit it, social media has a huge impact on your life and therefore your mind. So take a close look at the people you follow and ask yourself if they’re a good influence in your life.
The great thing is about social media is you are in control of what you see. You can personalise your feed or customise your timeline. It’s never been easier to filter out the bullshit. You don’t have to tolerate negative or toxic behaviour or be obliged to stay supporting someone that you do not agree with. You don’t need to listen to anyone that makes you negatively question yourself.
Ask yourself these questions; Is your timeline a toxic environment or is it a place that nurtures your mind? Does the content you see daily educate you? Or make you laugh? Do the individuals you follow make you big up and love yourself? Are you inspired? Are you building connections with brands you admire? Are you forming friendships with like minded individuals?
If not my friend, then it’s time to go on an unfollow spree. Earlier this week I went through my twitter and unfollowed over 200 accounts. It felt fucking great. I had absolutely no guilt and let me tell you why:
Firstly, I’M SEEING MORE OF THE CONTENT I ACTUALLY WANT TO SEE. I’m actually clicking on blog posts that I want to read because I’m not overwhelmed. My timeline is now filled with inspiring women (and men) from all backgrounds. I have a diverse and eclectic variety of people who contribute something important to feed my mind and align me with who I want to become. I’m learning every day. I feel inspired. I’m engaging in conversation more easily and am much happier that my timeline is a place I actually want to be contributing to.
So here are my tips on HOW to cleanse your social media:
- Take some time to look through your following list and start by unfollowing dead accounts that haven’t tweeted in months or years.
- If someone is constantly bashing others and creating a negative environment, it’s time to hit unfollow.
- Brands that you no longer support? UNFOLLOW!
- Mute people, hashtags, phrases and words that trigger uncomfortable feelings within you. I’ve muted certain people who are always creating a negative environment.
- Celebs who you no longer care about or really want to see updates from. You guessed it *unfollow*
- And finally, the last thing I took into consideration is whether the account actually interacts with people or just have a feed full of scheduled or promotional tweets. I want to follow humans, not generated content and link dumpers.
Although I’m speaking about twitter specifically, the same rules apply for Facebook. Seriously, how many ‘friends’ have you got who are secretly hoping you fail at life? The ones that watch every move of yours but never comment when you’ve accomplished something great. Or those random people you met at a party 4 years ago and never seen since, UNFRIEND. Be ruthless!
You do not need any bystanders in your life who are not contributing anything. You need cheerleaders! And people that inspire or encourage your growth.
Look to follow people who spark joy, spread positivity, aim to educate and are just amazing at what they do. I promise you’ll feel a weight lifted from your shoulders.
Have you had a social media cleanse recently? Let me know in the comments!